I'm Irish, have a stable career (and love it too). I'm happy in life. I won't bother describing myself positively, I want the impression I make to speak for me instead. Everyone will view me differently anyway.

I work out and swim, am fit, have a good body and diet, my hobbies are Ballroom/Swing dancing, language-learning (know 4 to an advanced level and still keeping them going and learning more) and I practice the Sedona Method which I find really benefits my life. I also travelled 5 years, which means a life goal fulfilled at a very young age.

So why am I here? What more could I possibly want?

I am exploring the idea of having children with a co-parent. Why? I don't believe in traditional marriage and I also think that marriage is outdated, and no longer applicable in today's modern scene. I am hence not optimistic about the dating or marriage scene for the coming decades.

I also believe that what we call "true love" in the romantic sense is actually quite rare, to the point where it's not worth chasing or holding out for. If it happens to you, then that's fantastic, but I'm not arrogant to think this will happen to me of all people. There is love as a parent, love between good friends and then there is love between two partners. Three very different things.

I believe romantic love is extremely fickle, and given today's fast-paced world, in which change happens faster than ever, expecting that fairy-tale love is a recipe for frustration and eventually loss of one's sanity.

But despite my initially gloomy explanation, I like to look forward to solutions as much as possible. What is MUCH more likely to be stable is a friendship, one based on a platonic kind, in which we are united in a goal bigger than ourselves to raise children who grew up with two parents who love them deeply, and work together to ensure they are cared about. I also believe that the absence of any romantic love makes it far easier in terms of clarity to focus on the well-being of the children. [Romantic] Love is blind, as they say.

Outside of the children, my co-parent can feel she can live her own life without worrying about keeping me happy, whether that's having a romantic partner, or staying at her high-flying career, etc. After all, the kind of women I find here are ones with good careers, and who don't want to give it up. Why should they?

I am open to the mother being the primary parent, that doesn't bother me, as long as she allows me to be in their lives and trusts me, and honours a father figure as part of children's lives. I believe fathers are important. I would want us to agree on and be on the same team about major things like discipline, nutrition, boundaries, developing their hobbies, etc. I don't mind if we don't live in the same country, but I'd want it to be no further than Europe, Canada or America. The rest of the world is just too far.

I suppose I could write more, but it is late, and I might come back to it!