Time’s up! 🤣

Having a look for a potential coparent match, and am open to creative ideas for how that may work. Vancouver, BC based.

For me, the ideal coparenting relationship is based on shared values and goals, mutual respect, high level communication that seeks third party moderation without shame when necessary, clear boundaries, a practical and business-like approach to schedules and finances, and hopefully eventually the “je ne sais quois” kind of non-romantic love that makes a family.

I lean very strongly towards finding a single, gay man in a similar life stage as me: you’ve enjoyed success in your career, you’ve always wanted to be a parent, maybe you’ve considered alternatives like adoption, but you also value the idea of your child having a second parent/mother and are open to exploring the possibilities of how that might look. I would be very hesitant to consider this situation if there is any possibility of an unintended sexual or romantic connection, but am open to the conversation.

I froze my eggs 4 years ago and the doctor commented that “in poker they call this a full house!” My fertility was again confirmed in late 2019. They have urged me to try naturally before going the AI route, so here I am.

Unfortunately, a significant relationship ended right before covid started, and I spent the next year healing from that and very hesitant about dating, at least until the majority of the population was vaccinated. So far, no luck, and it feels too rushed to start a romantic relationship at this point as I’d like to get pregnant naturally before it’s too late to do so safely.

I’ve been a caretaker all of my life, which I took to naturally when I was 5 and got a baby brother, and later a sister. I was the neighbourhood babysitter from the age of 11, and nannied for many families throughout university part time during the school years and full time in the summers. After that, I have become “Auntie” to many wonderful children of friends. Those friends have all joked that I probably have more experience with children than they do. Possibly true!

I’m very close with my family, I volunteer regularly, and enjoy cooking, gardening, dining out, road trips, theatre, festivals… I eat and shop conscientiously, organic and local as much as possible, and prefer to make most things from scratch. I also really love what I do for work in design and property management. I am also the captain of my Block Watch 😆

I am agnostic and will prioritize critical thinking and open communication about religion always— this is important to me. I know, love, and respect people of many religions though, so if your faith is considered and informed, we may be able to make something work.

I would prefer to find a co-parent close to Vancouver as I would like my house to be home-base for the child. I live in Kitsilano which is close to the ocean, Pacific Spirit Park, and is a beautiful, walkable, safe community. If you have a home in another BC community where I could transfer my tourism-based business, I would consider relocation. I have family in Squamish and the Okanagan and would be open to both or beyond. I have a soft spot for the Sunshine Coast and Whistler. I need tourism and a support network of friends and family as a base to make a life that will allow me to balance career, motherhood, and me time. 🥰

I am open to creative ideas about home sharing, which I have done quite a bit of over the years in my student/young adult life, and through Couchsurfing and Airbnb. Perhaps baby stays at home base in Kits and parents swap weeks at a little pied-a-terre in the city, for rest, relaxation, restaurants, and the occasional rendezvous? 😘🙋🏼‍♀️

The first few years will be full on either way, but with the right partnership I think we could both enjoy a lot of freedom and independence as well. It’s honestly starting to feel like a better idea than the traditional love match route for building a family.

So that’s way more than enough from me. Looking forward to hearing from you!