I am really new to this idea…. I have to make a decision for my health as to whether to have children or not.

Let’s be honest… I don’t look good on paper but I know I have the wisdom, time, love and energy to put into raising a child.

I am polyamorous and currently I am with a woman I would love to raise a little being with. I am open to different arrangements but I feel having a child with someone platonically is a healthy way to raise someone these days. I am a 3rd generation Canadian but my grandpa was Maltese, plus I got lots of Irish and English (I think since my Mom can’t figure out our family heritage) I had platinum blond hair as a kid. Was, and still am a sweet, fun loving, intelligent with a strong sense of fairness and equality. I grew up into a curvy bombshell whose actually hair colour is dark ash blond 😆

Okay here is the not so great stuff… I am currently on disability. I have been in recovery for 4 years. I got in lots of trouble when I was younger. (Still do sometimes 😈) I feel like I have lived enough life for a dozen people. I have wisdom, patience. science minded but a practicing Buddhist.

I got a big family… 9 nieces and nephews… 4 brothers and a sister. I am the only one left that hasn’t taken the leap. If I can find the right person before it too late for my health. I am ready to completely commit the first couple years to the child’s welfare.

Since I would really like to focus on being present, and make an active effort at attunement. My parents are not the most amazing comparably but if you consider what each of them went through as a child. I couldn’t have asked for better.

That being said… I don’t have the financial and instrumental support that one would hope from their parents. I have no grandparents which is something I hope to give my child. So whoever decides to make a living being I would hope they are more than financially comfortable. (Not a deal breaker), I have my own savings but not enough. I am happy to work as much as I am able and to start a new business after the child is around 1-2. But since I am being pressured to make a decision for my health. I don’t have time to be as prepared as I would like. Hence I am on here 🤷🏼‍♀️

I was and still am very loved by both of my parents. I want to do for my child what my parents did for me. Tried to give me what they were not given. I don’t want to spoil the little person. I want use my life experience and help them get ready for life as it is. Be ready to work hard (and play hard) at whatever they do.