Ok, well here goes…

The biological clock has been snoozed one too many times by now.

I’ve tried the dating scene but as the years have progressed the dream of having my own children far outweighs the white picket fence illusion of marriage. And as people keep telling me… time is of the essence; I’m not getting younger (thank you mother).

I’ve been seriously thinking about this for quite a few years now, so seriously that I have been attending appointments at a fertility clinic with the intention of IUI with a donor.

It’ll be two years come December since making the decision I was going to do this alone and contacted the clinic. In that time, I have multiple fertility and blood tests and scans (all looking good).

They’ve finally decided I’m ready for the next stages which is when they’ve sent me the donors and unfortunately there are only 5 unsuitable donors available, two of which have known medical issues and 3 that haven't had the additional genetics testing that was so mandatory for myself before I could continue. On top of that I’ve been advised there’s only a 10% success rate with frozen donations and will potentially require months of cycles.

I’ve become disheartened by the clinic and I’m now back to thinking I wouldn’t have wasted all this time if I’d found my own donor, hence why I’m on here.

I am full time employed with a career in finance that I love. I have the means and family support to go this alone if that what works best for me and any children I have.

I’d say my main focus is a sperm donor, but co-parenting isn’t out of the question. Though I must say, I’m not looking for a situation where a child’s being ferried backwards and forwards for alternate weekends and holidays between parents.

I’m more than happy to supply updates and contact to what degree works best for all involved (child included). I’m happy for it to only be an annual update via email should you wish, or a presence to some degree in their life.

I completely understand if you also want no contact whatsoever, again I’m happy with this. However, I also hope that in 2-3 years I’d be able to give them a sibling, preferably full sibling so how that would work with no contact I’m not sure at this point as I understand people’s situations change all the time. It would have to be something discussed, I guess.