My fiancé & I want a child together desperately and our foster daughter would love a sibling!! We have been together for 3 yrs, engaged for 2 yrs, but have known each other for around 14 yrs. We were blessed with our now 3 yr old foster daughter/niece being placed with us in our home when she was a little over a yr. We recently found out that we can finally start the process for permanent guardianship or adoption very soon!! So we can finally breathe again as her bio parents have been found unfit (due to reasons I’m leaving unsaid) and don’t have to stress or worry about her going back to a bad situation anymore!!

That being said we’ve been discussing wanting to use a donor and try for our own child for most of our relationship and all of our engagement. So we’ve put a lot of thought into it and discuss it constantly, and wasn’t a spur of the moment choice by any means!! We actually had/have a donor that’s a close friend, and at one point had everything planned for our first try. But we happened to be surprised the day before we planned to do it with the call letting us know dfs had taken over custody of our niece and wanted to place her with us if we were willing, able, and qualified according to their standards. We didn’t hesitate not even a little but unfortunately felt we needed to put baby making on hold for the time being. We wanted to make sure we got her comfortable and well adjusted to our home and all the other changes before adding a baby to the mix.

It’s a good thing we did to as she was extremely malnourished, dehydrated, neglected, abused, traumatized, and over 10 months behind developmentally!! So she needed and deserved our extra attention and focus for some time. She is not only caught up developmentally but has actually excelled above her age group in multiple areas. She’s come such a very long way and with our help has worked hard to excel in all areas!! So now that we’ve gotten her much further advanced and she’s calmed down a bit. Along with the peace of mind finally knowing she doesn’t have to go back to a bad home and that she’ll be with us permanently right where she belongs!! We’d like to get serious about finding a new donor and start trying for a baby. This was some about our little family and our situation if have questions or would like to know more we’re willing to do so within reason of course!!