The world has changed, and so have the traditional ideas of family. We’ve all seen people stuck in relationships that no longer nurture their growth or happiness — staying together simply because “that’s what you’re supposed to do.” For generations, society taught us to endure such arrangements, even when they lead to frustration, resentment, and emotional distance, especially harmful for children. But luckily, those outdated values belong to another century.

There’s a famous story about John Lennon. As a child, his teacher asked the class what they wanted to be when they grew up. While everyone listed professions, Lennon simply answered: "Happy." The teacher told him he didn’t understand the question, and he replied, "You don’t understand life."

I feel the same way. Happiness looks different for everyone, but for me, it’s not about working the same job for 50 years, living in the same house, or staying in a relationship out of obligation. I believe personal freedom, emotional growth, and living a meaningful life come first.

And I believe it’s possible to bring a child into this world through mutual respect and shared values, rather than through the traditional family mold. A child raised by two emotionally mature people, free from the tensions of a failing relationship, has the best chance of growing into a calm, self-aware and happy human being.

Why do I want to become a parent? Because I want to pass on the lessons I’ve learned, the values I hold dear, and the strength of my character and health. I want to offer a child the freedom and support to develop their own path — while knowing they were born from love, intention, and the desire to give them the best foundation life can offer.

You share my values? We could talk more on this topic.